Licensed mental health counseling and therapy services for teens, adults, individuals, and couples.  

Located in the Stadium District, serving the Tacoma, Sumner, Puyallup,

Steilacoom, and University Place area in Pierce County, Washington​

 

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Helping people bring structure and calm to chaos

Deanne Carter, LMHC

Info@HeartHealing.org

253 . 651 . 3752

Helping people bring structure and calm to chaos

Deanne Carter, LMHC

Increasing Structure & Routines

© 2012 Deanne Carter, LMHC, NCC

Sample Routines Parents Can Use
to Help Kids Create Calm

Morning while TV is off

  • Get dressed, including socks

  • Comb hair

  • Wash face

  • Shoes by door

  • Breakfast

  • Brush teeth

  • Then TV, if it’s before 7:45

Afterschool

  • Shoes off

  • Use bathroom

  • Change into play clothes

  • Backpack to table

  • Take out folder at table

  • Choose snack (from particular cupboard or list)

  • Set timer for 20 minutes

  • Start homework until bell

  • At the bell: ask questions/get help on homework

  • 10 jumping jacks, 5 summer saults, or 10 wall push ups

  • Set timer for 20 minutes

  • At the bell: ask questions/get help on homework

  • Done? Show parent completed work, pack backpack, backpack by door as ticket to go to play

Playtime

  • Outside in yard – football, soccer, bikes, basketball

  • Inside – legos, cars/racetrack, fort, hide and seek, board games, art supplies except painting

  • Permission to have friends over or go to friend’s house when homework complete within 1 hour and dog is fed and watered. (can have electronics at friends’ houses)

  • Home by 5:30 (provide child with watch with alarm)

  • Up to 5 minutes late = come home 10 minutes early next day

  • Up to 10 minutes late = come home 20 minutes early next day

  • Up to 30 minutes late = stay home next day

After dinner

  • Dishes to sink, wipe table

  • Check room for items on the floor (parent checks at 7pm and any items on the floor are gone for 1 week)

  • Play Choices: Outside in yard – football, soccer, bikes, basketball

  • Inside – legos, cars/racetrack, fort, hide and seek, board games, art supplies except painting

  • and electronics and friends over until 7:15, if all homework is turned in

Bedtime routine

  • 7:30pm bath/shower

  • PJs

  • Get last drink or snack before 8pm

  • Brush teeth

  • 8:00 Read 20 minutes on own

  • 8:20  10 minutes with adult if you are in bed, Can talk or read

  • 8:30 lights out: You don’t have to sleep, but you do need to stay in room with lights out

  • Bedtime cd’s are ok

I can help you build skills that will benefit you
and your kids for a lifetime.
To set up an initial consultation

​call 253.651.3752

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